This should perhaps be unsurprising but there’s nothing obviously “gendered” about Nelle. She’s a baby, a human, a personality-becoming-personality, a uniqueness, but is not in any meaningful sense a “girl”. It’s as though during diaper change or bath time the single source of evidentiary truth reveals itself, but otherwise does not make itself known. Yes, lots of hand-me-downs are pink. And, yes, we use feminine pronouns. But it is not clear to me what these mean, like if you were to tie a ribbon around your finger but forget to what it refers.